The Highly Sensitive Person

The Highly Sensitive Person
Elaine N. Aron

How to cope when the world overwhelms you.For those people who:have a keen imagination; are labelled too shy or too sensitive; who perform poorly when being observed even though they are usually competent; have vivid dreams; for whom time alone each day is essential;and find they are quickly overwhelmed by noise and confusion, crowded parties, hectic office life………….this is the book to help them understand themselves and how best to cope in various situations.Highly sensitive people are often very bright and creative but many suffer from low self esteem. They are not ‘neurotics’ as they have been labelled for so long. However, high sensitivity can lead them to cease to engage with the outside world.The book offers solutions for a happy and fulfilling life. Particularly in the way an HSP perceives his or herself: the book helps to ‘reframe’ past events, such as a difficult childhood, or how they see themselves – ie. shy.Particularly strong material for those raising a sensitive child

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First published in the US by Carol Publishing Group

First published by Thorsons 1999

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Dedication (#ulink_a9a2e74e-6f77-5e89-8f40-63d97e512bb0)

To Irene Bernardicou Pettit, Ph.D.

– being both poet and peasant, she knew how to plant this seed and tend it until it blossomed.

To Art, who especially loves the

flowers – one more love we share.

Epigraph (#ulink_1fe08721-a6c7-5899-88a8-eef59b399e5d)

I believe in aristocracy, though—if that is the right word, and if a democrat may use it. Not an aristocracy of power … but … of the sensitive, the considerate.… Its members are to be found in all nations and classes, and all through the ages, and there is a secret understanding between them when they meet. They represent the true human tradition, the one permanent victory of our queer race over cruelty and chaos. Thousands of them perish in obscurity, a few are great names. They are sensitive for others as well as themselves, they are considerate without being fussy, their pluck is not swankiness but the power to endure …

E. M. Forster, “What I Believe,”

in Two Cheers for Democracy

Contents

Cover (#u817d4f06-b997-5f7e-929f-9a77e074a4a4)

Title Page (#ubc5b2630-8364-5738-94be-81cc953689f5)

Copyright (#uf6a159c9-c8cd-5c66-b6ef-e0924c29dfd8)

Dedication (#u5a318b79-2ad9-582a-b55e-1923c100026c)

Epigraph (#ulink_dd4c71a6-682f-51ea-ae37-e66a24728b79)

Preface (#u63466a6d-314a-5fca-bcb0-82357a065ed8)

Are You Highly Sensitive? A Self-Test (#u64894092-4a28-5bd4-bd56-307f7930fe7a)

1 The Facts About Being Highly Sensitive: A (Wrong) Sense of Being Flawed (#u7ef38eab-2ac5-56db-82c7-4d61f8b72ad5)

2 Digging Deeper: Understanding Your Trait for All That It Is (#u547cfe52-b2cf-5730-a968-1db6b02de632)

3 General Health and Lifestyle for HSPs: Loving and Learning From Your Infant/Body Self (#u813d3262-46dc-5f9d-812c-974febd8ee30)

4 Reframing Your Childhood and Adolescence: Learning to Parent Yourself (#litres_trial_promo)

5 Social Relationships: The Slide Into “Shy” (#litres_trial_promo)

6 Thriving at Work: Follow Your Bliss and Let Your Light Shine Through (#litres_trial_promo)

7 Close Relationships: The Challenge of Sensitive Love (#litres_trial_promo)

8 Healing the Deeper Wounds: A Different Process for HSPs (#litres_trial_promo)

9 Medics, Medications, and HSPs: “Shall I Listen to Prozac or Talk Temperament With My Doctor?” (#litres_trial_promo)

10 Soul and Spirit: Where True Treasure Lies (#litres_trial_promo)

Tips for Health-Care Professionals Working With Highly Sensitive People (#litres_trial_promo)

Tips for Teachers Working With Highly Sensitive Students (#litres_trial_promo)

Tips for Employers of Highly Sensitive People (#litres_trial_promo)

Keep Reading (#litres_trial_promo)

Notes (#litres_trial_promo)

Index (#litres_trial_promo)

Acknowledgments (#litres_trial_promo)